Girls, do you remember the good old days when we were absolutely captivated by fairytales? The brave knight rescuing helpless maidens, Prince Charming searching the whole kingdom to find Cinderella, Prince Phillip fighting fire-breathing dragons just to be with his princess, all of it sparks something in a little girl’s heart. Whether you were decked out in pink your whole childhood or preferred to play in the mud with the boys, I think all of us can relate to dreaming about these stories at least a little bit. I remember dancing around the living room as a kid with my plastic tiara wishing for the day I’d live in a castle with my own personal Prince Charming. As girls we want the brave knight to sweep us off our feet, rescue us from the danger around us and ride off into the sunset. We want to be seen as beautiful and cherished. We want to be worth fighting for. We’ve all wanted it...it’s how we were made.
But it seems as we’ve gotten older, that dream has been lost. We watch the movies that used to enchant us and get that twinge of sadness in the back of your mind that says “I used to think life could actually be like that.” Yes, we’ve realized that we won’t all live in castles and wear ball gowns all the time, but it’s something more. We’ve lost the expectation that we can ever be seen as a princess, valued and beautiful and important. Our minds have been so warped by society that we can’t imagine being seen as that. Well, we may not be able to change society, but we are able to change the way we think and act. So take a lesson from the princesses on how to find a fairytale love in today’s world.Did Cinderella ever go stalking Prince Charming? Do you think Belle followed the Beast wherever he went? Did Repunzel constantly texted her prince from the tower, "Whatcha doing?” “When are you going to come visit me?” “Are you in battle or something, why aren’t you answering me?”, “Hello?!” I don’t think so. That’s one thing that girls today have totally missed. It isn’t the girl’s job to pursue the guy. That’s not how good relationships work. It’s okay to be interested but don’t overlook the signs. The best indicators of if a guy is interested is if he talks to you! Not only will you annoy him if you constantly bombard him with questions, texts or tweets, but you will deprive him of one of his roles as a guy: to pursue the girl he’s interested in. They’re wired to chase after what they want. Be friendly, be yourself, but don’t be clingy. You will never know how it feels to be pursued if you’re constantly taking the job of the chaser. Wait for the right guy to come along that will care enough to work for your attention & your heart.
It seems to me that all of the princesses in the fairytales I
heard weren’t easy like some of today’s chicks. They didn’t throw kisses around like they were nothing, they were modest {minus Jasmine} and they seem like all around good girls. Yes, it’s silly because the movies were made for little kids but don’t you think there’s some truth in the fact that they were valued because they respected themselves? So many times I hear girls talking about how they want the fairytale love they dreamed of when they were little but “that just doesn’t exist anymore”. Then they continue to explain how their one night stand on Saturday didn’t go so well but it’s alright because they have a date lined up already for next week. REALLY? Is that how we go about looking for a quality relationship? Is that how you find a modern day fairytale? It’s so sad that some girls have just given up hope so easily. In order to find people {and a guy} that will respect you, you have to respect yourself. If you want to have someone interested in your heart, don’t show them your chest. If you want to have someone that just enjoys spending time with you, don’t let the relationship get physical. You attract people based on how you act. If you’re willing to let people use you for your body, you will find people that are willing to use it. You will never find a Prince Charming by putting yourself up for sale like that. However, if you’ll keep your standards high and wait for someone who will value and treasure YOU {your heart & dreams & ambitions} then you will find that person. Don’t be discouraged if they don’t come right away. Princes are rare but worth waiting for.
Don’t cheapen yourself. If you have the mentality that its just a kiss, you will give it away to anyone that asks and it won’t be as magical when you give it to your “prince”. You don’t get fairytale loves by devaluing all the things that make a relationship special. You don’t get magical moments by giving those away to anyone who asks for it. Value those things. Keep them. One day they will be worth so much more.
Lastly, don’t think you have to have a “prince” in order to be a princess. Don’t believe the lie that you aren’t important until someone {a guy} says you’re important…because it’s NOT TRUE! You are significant even without a significant other. Don’t find your value in what another person thinks of you. Be proud of who you are and don’t sit on the side lines waiting for someone to come whisk you off your feet. You will never know what you are missing out on and the amazing things that you are capable of. Take this time in life to find out what you’re good at and run with it. The right guy will come into your life at the right time and there’s nothing you can do to speed it up! So enjoy today and make the most of it.
Now I realize that this isn’t a fast formula to find love worthy of a fairytale. It takes self control and patience, but it pays off in the end. All this to say, don’t settle for an average love story. Though the world may tell you that it isn’t worth waiting for the real deal, it is. While it’s true that love isn’t always easy, it is always worth it. Don’t lose hope that you will find someone who will protect and cherish you like Prince Charming did to Cinderella. You deserve to be loved. Respect yourself and don't let others take advantage of you. Fairytales are not dead yet, girls. Keep your standards high and become someone worthy of a modern day prince and you will find yourself in the middle of a beautiful love story.
